What we need to be talking about

First, the social emotional needs of kids are paramount to their readiness to learn. So much is going on in the lives and heads of young people, that rigid rules and strict adherence to Common Core standards can be incredibly stressful and anxiety provoking. Can we really expect kids to be ready to learn when their self esteem is in the toilet, a parent is inconsistent and often absent, or they are managing a significant mental health diagnosis? 

Second, Robin Williams' death gave us a gift. Silver lining in a tragic situation. He highlighted how even those who seem to have it all may be fighting with their own demons. We MUST continue the discussion of the seriousness of mental health as much as we do cancer. 

Third, there should be no shame in asking for or admitting the need for help. A parent who struggles with managing and responding to their child's anxiety shouldn't have to be ashamed that they or their child are talking with someone about it. No, I am not advocating for broadcasting our personal business, but there should not be judgment in the face of acknowledging a problem that is there. The idea of stigma needs to go away. 

Fourth, not everyone with the same diagnoses should be treated the same. People who are dealing with depression, may all be considered as fruit, but the flavor and experience are not the same for each piece. Apples and Oranges. 

Fifth, discussing mental health issues in schools will not automatically assume that it will lead to greater numbers of certain issues. Talking about self harm will not make someone self harm, acknowledging depression and anxiety will not make people more anxious or depressed. The pressures of youth are there, we need to do better by acknowledging them. 

I need to do better by sharing and reflecting on the issues I see every day in this practice. Call it a school year goal, but I pledge to do better.